Things That Make You a Good Listener
There are many good speakers, but only a few good listeners in the world. The art of listening is difficult to master, but once you equip yourself with the weapon of listening, the war of success becomes easy.
Here are a few hacks that can make you a better listener than you already are:
You would only tell your problems to someone who gives you attention. Maintaining eye contact with the speaker keeps you both intangibly linked. Face your speaker and carefully listen to what he is saying.
Positive Body Language:
While listening you are not speaking, therefore, it is your body language that will tell the speaker that he has your ears. Leaning forward and maintaining an eye-contact will reflect your enthusiasm in what they say. Looking elsewhere, or playing with your phone puts an adverse impact on speaker.
Listen to the real message within:
Listening is something we all do. What makes a good listener stand out is his capability to understand what the speaker is actually trying to tell throughout the conversation. Sometimes, the other person absolutely does not talk about what they actually want to share, but keep giving a hint of what they wish to share. A good listener has the quality of picking up that hint and then grasps the speaker.
Stick to the Subject:
The most common mistake made by the listeners is the change of topic. When you change the topic it shows your lack of interest in that topic. A good listener would listen to a topic that the speaker is interested in with all the attention. He would give the speaker a gesture of being interested in the topic.
Listen with an Open Mind:
A good listener is likely to listen till the end before he comes up to a conclusion. When the speaker shares his problem with you, it is very easy to get carried away with yourself and start judging the situation your way. Remember, you have two ears and one mouth which itself justifies that you should listen more and speak less. Before building up any opinion, it is important to understand the situation to the fullest. Any premature solution will push the speaker away.
Remember what you hear:
When someone is sharing an event of their life or are sharing their plans, they expect you to remember whatever they say. When you make reference to something you were told earlier, the speaker would love to know that you were actually listening. Also, this makes you appear more aware of the situation in the eyes of the speaker. The other person would now be ready to share more details with you because you are more acquainted with the situation.
Do not interrogate, but ask gently:
Being a good listener does not mean that you do not speak at all. You must ask questions to the speaker as a gesture of being interested in what they are saying. However, it is important that you carefully draft your question to ensure that you do not offend the speaker. Rather, ask constructive questions that help you extract more information about the speaker’s state of mind. Questions about what the other person feels really triggers his true emotions.